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Stories That Lead by Example

August 19, 2013 by James D. Witmer 2 Comments

My little boy is awesome. Logan is three, and taller than a lot of four-year olds. He loves to roughhouse, to be outside, and to ride roller-coasters. He’s also afraid of the dark, the vacuum cleaner, and bugs small enough to be bullied by bacteria.

Knowing myself as I do, I shouldn’t be surprised by his fearfulness, but I kind of am. Even more surprising is how much I’ve struggled to encourage him.

I’ve tried telling Logan that his fears are silly, and that he shouldn’t be scared. Again, my own experience should have told me that wasn’t helpful.

“So I’m terrified AND dumb. Thanks, Dad!”

But I didn’t figure it out until after talking with an older friend. My friend advised me that, whenever I could, I should sympathize with my boy’s fear, and then encourage him to push through it. As some british guy wrote somewhere, courage does not consist of being unafraid, but of acting despite fear.

So I tried it out, and Logan seemed to appreciate my sympathy. But when I told him that I wanted him to be brave, he gave me the strangest look. He didn’t know what brave meant.

I described how I wanted him to behave; to remain calm, remember that I love him and that he’s safe, to close his eyes and shut out the dark. And Logan kind of thought I was nuts. He couldn’t do these things because he was afraid. Had I missed that part?

Finally, I remembered Cowardly Clyde – a fictional horse who ran terrified out of an ogre-harboring woods, then turned around and ran back into that woods, because his friend needed him. Logan loves that story. “Being brave” was beyond his three-year-old mind. But “be like Clyde,” he understood. And it inspired him to try.

I believe stories can broaden our empathy, helping us to love. They tell us we’re not alone. But they can also give us something to live up to, whetting our appetite for virtues we don’t yet have.

For Logan and me, a couple of guys still learning courage, that’s a good reason to keep reading.

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James D. Witmer
James D. Witmer
James is the author of children’s books A Year in the Big Old Garden, Beside the Pond, and the Allen Family Mysteries series.

He continues to write about adventure, backyard wildlife, and realizing there are no ordinary places, and you can find him at JamesDWitmer.com.
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  1. Loren Warnemuende says

    August 19, 2013 at 4:43 pm

    I love that Cowardly Clyde gave Logan the connective peg he needed to understand bravery. I’ve seen that kind of thing happen for my kids so often. You’re right, story is key! I find it helps me deal as much as it does my kids.

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    • James Witmer says

      August 20, 2013 at 10:03 pm

      I have always loved stories, books. Now that I have children, I find myself becoming thankful that books exist, and for their authors. Don’t know how I would tell my kids about the world without stories.

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